It
is generally said “forgive and forget”.
When someone offended you and he or she comes to apologize, you hear a common
word from the individual; please forgive me. When the person comes with a
friend or a relation to apologize as a spoke person, the person use a common
phrase “please just gives and forget”.
But the big question here today is, can someone really forgive and forget?
According to a friend of mine, nobody
on earth can really forgive and forget. Someone might have offended you knowing
or unknown, he or she renders an apology and you decided to forgive the person,
that doesn’t mean you forgot. The plain truth might be yes, you really forgave
the person and you guys are back to old times, but there can never be a way
that you will forget. He later indicated even if you promise yourself that you
will never talk about what have happened, there will be something that will
always remind you of it.
Let say the same person, who you
forgave few months back, is doing something or someone else is reflecting to
same thing, your memory will always flash back to how you reacted to the last
situation. In other words you might just want the give the person a piece of
advice, or remind him or her on how the same attitude led to an apology. In doing so you just remembered what they
pleaded you to forget.
Another example, will be when a friend
of yours, talks about exactly the same story or situation. Let’s give the
example of a cheating husband. You as a wife, after so many apologies and
promises of change from your husband, adding “it will never happen again”, you forgave and forget. Now your
friend is telling that she caught her husband cheating, even before you render
any advice or condolence, you will always talk about your own experience,
behavior and attitude, when you caught you own husband cheating. This is not
the fact that you did not forgive him, it is just the fact that you can forget
even if you forgive.