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HOW TO KNOW HE IS THE MAN YOU DESERVE

A lot of us can spend a substantial amount of time trying to look for the love that we think we’re deserving of in this life. And sometimes, if we’re lucky, we don’t have to wait so long to find that love. Whenever you do find that love, you always want to make sure that you don’t take it for granted. You always want to make sure that you fight for that love to make sure that it doesn’t go to waste. However, a lot of us make the mistake of failing to make the distinction whenever we are in the relationships that we are deserving of. If you happen to be one of those people who have trouble distinguishing the love that you are truly deserving of, then this article is for you. Don’t worry. Sometimes, people are just going to need a good old reminder. And that’s what this article aims to do. Here are a few signs that the guy that you’re with is the man that you deserve to spend the rest of your days with. #1. He doesn’t need a special occasion to remind you of how much he ...

YOUR WIFE IS YOUR LIFE PARTNER NOT LIFE SERVANT

I cringed today when a man said if his wife does something he ‘commands’ her not to do, he'd send her out of his house back to her parents; that it's very wrong for a woman to disobey her husband no matter what. Well, I couldn't hold my chill, I opposed him passionately and he resorted to calling me a kid; “You won't understand till you get married.” That's always how they sound. Very manipulative old folks. Please single guys, when you wanna get married, just remind yourself that the woman you're getting married to will be your life partner, not your servant. You ain't doing her a favor by getting married to her, so don't ever feel that sending her back to her parents means she'll die or lose her womanhood. Your wife is not your errand girl, she's like a colleague and she's important like you in that marriage, so you don't command her to do things, you don't just give orders, No! Both of you are to reach a stand...

PRAYER OF AGREEMENT IN MARRIAGE

One of the ways God has programmed speed to answered prayer in the realm of the spirit is through PRAYER OF AGREEMENT. The scripture says in Matthew 18:19 Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. It’s quite unfortunate that many married couples don’t take advantage of this blessing,and they begin to lament that their prayers are being delayed. The devil, very cunning a man knowing the ignorance of men decided to take advantage , He will ensure that husband and wife never pray together and agree together in oneness of heart ,its so unfortunate ,that is the reason things are slowed down in the realm of the spirit. It is either the husband wants to pray but the wife is not willing, or it is either the wife wants to pray but the husband is not willing. You will hear words like ‘’ continue I will join you , “ please don’t disturb me" "Akam ado utom ibaan” (It's a woman...

DIFFERENT TYPES OF SEX

1. RECONCILIATION SEX: Sex is a most potent weapon for diluting and diffusing misunderstanding in Marriage. If you don't use SEX to settle some stubborn crisis, then you are missing out and not maximizing it. In addition when you both settle a misunderstanding, the person at fault could initiate sex as a way to make up to the other who was on the receiving side of the conflict. 2. HEALING SEX: There are some sicknesses and diseases that are cured by good Sex I mean very good Sex. Healing sex is gentle, it is full of grace and elegance. You don't rush it. Mbanu. You do it softly and it hits the bull's eye. Please Husbands, don't throw your weight on her if it's for healing, let the bed carry your weight 100%. 3. PUNISHMENT SEX: When I counsel couples, are times I hear spouses say "Since he did that, I decided to punish him by depriving him of sex", or "since she refused me, I decided not to touch her again". That is as senseless a...

MARITAL EXPECTANCY OF MEN

One of the most significant sources of stress in marriage is tied to expectations. When expectations are unclear, unhealthy, unspoken or unmet , one or both spouses can start to feel neglected, inadequate and/or frustrated with the marriage. I’m convinced many (if not most) divorces come back to expectations. When a man and woman first start out together in marriage, both of them are carrying unspoken expectations. They each have a vision of what the home life will be. They have separate ideas of what their sex life will be. They have different dreams for what their future family will be. They also have different expectations for what the each of their responsibilities should be. These different expectations are rarely communicated out loud because most newlyweds naively believe that they are so in sync with their spouse that the unspoken expectations are exactly the same. This is never the case. Two different individuals with two different personalities coming from two diff...