1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to; 2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes. 3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner. 4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem; 5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public; 6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time; 7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you....

Having vagina, boobs, and hips doesn't make you a woman. A woman is the one who feeds a man with encouragement and ideas A woman is the one who helps a man to save and invest wisely . A woman does not run her mouth with sarcasm and insult just to prove a point, rather her words are gracious and can heal a broken heart . A woman is the one that knows when to talk and to keep Quiet. A woman is the one that doesn't leak secret. A woman is the one that is content with what she has, and not the one that sells her self for material things. A woman is a manager, a caretaker, a womb that can nature and birth destinies . A woman doesn't do trending things, but she is reserved and has a taste of a Queen. A woman doesn't look down on any man because of his present state of life and financial status, rather she encourages any man to get better. A woman is the one that does not just bears babies, but bear ideas and inspiration anytime, anywhere. A woman is the one a man can cry on h...

Positive peer pressure will almost always push a person to discover their capabilities and strengths. On the other hand, negative peer pressure can lead to habits that are both cyclical and damaging. Alcohol and drugs, for example, are usually used in group settings. Early drug abuse often includes tobacco, alcohol, inhalants, marijuana, and prescription drugs such as sleeping pills or anti-anxiety medications. The National Household Survey on Drug Abuse shows that abuse of drugs in late childhood and early adolescence is associated with long-term drug involvement. Avoiding substance abuse as young adults is paramount to preventing detrimental habits later in life.

  A feeling that one must do the same things as other people of one's age and social group in order to be liked, feel among, accepted or respected by peer. Peer pressure can be a driving force in influencing decisions and habits, especially those related to alcohol and drugs. As substance abuse issues continue to soar nationwide, psychologists and drug treatment specialists continue to explore preventive care options. It means tackling the problem of peer pressure.   SIGNS Peer pressure can range from subtle to overt, which means that some forms of peer pressure can be easier to spot than others. Being able to identify signs that your child is dealing with peer pressure may help you initiate a supportive conversation. Avoiding school or other social situations Being very image-conscious Changes in behavior Expressing feeling like they don't fit in Low moods Making social comparisons Trying out clothes and hairstyle Misbehaving and wanting to be rude, ar...

My daughter is six years old and is in grade one. We live about a kilometer away from school so everyday okada man whom we are familiar with takes her to school and returns her home in the afternoon because both my husband and I are working and we leave home early, just after she goes to school. One day when I was at work I received a call from her class teacher requesting me to avail myself there as soon as was possible. “What happened to Angel?” I questioned anxiously. “Nothing to panic about, just make sure you come before we break up for the day.” Of course I panicked. This had to do with my daughter and I was worried sick about her. I immediately excused myself from work and hurriedly took the first transport available. I burst into the classroom panting and sweating. “Mama Angel,” The teacher started. “We will talk about this privately.” She led the way to an empty office and I followed meekly. “Do you see your child off when she comes to school?” Was her...

A woman sent an anonymous question to me in a relationship talk session where I ministered recently on how her husband's siblings will come to her house and stay for days without helping her in any house chores.  They will eat and not pack their plates. They will expect her to put water in their bathroom for them to bath. They will dirty the sitting room and even their room and expect the wife to clean it up and arrange it well before they come back in the evening. One of them would use the toilet and expect the brother's wife to flush it for him. A guy of 22 years. A lot of women are passing through different kinds of hail in the hands of their so call in-laws and their husband wouldn't address it in their favor. Oga, your  wife don become your family slave?? Sir, in case you are reading this and your wife is going through this or similar in the hands of your siblings and you can't stop their stupid behaviors, hereby stressing your wife to please your family members, I...

"Social media? Its just a space were people have fun when they're bored; to some, its a business place". Yes, that's true but you have to be very careful where you are; what you do and who you make friends with both online and offline. The devil and his agents are everywhere entering into every time and space, looking for empty vessel to fill and possess. And with social media, he is dragging and luring many young people to himself. Discipline yourself and stand guard at the door of your heart. Don't follow everyone blindly. Be selective. There are pages you shouldn't like, groups you shouldn't belong to, except you're there as an ambassador of Christ, doing what your father did in the house of a tax collector. "Its just for fun", they will tell you but there is a hidden agenda, a device by the devil to destroy young minds. The devil is everywhere and he's not there for fun. He is earnestly doing something dangerous to the souls of men. D...

When I was in secondary school, my school did not have a fence round the school apart from the one built in front for the gateman, others areas like the backside and the rest were left open. At that time, it was difficult to restrain the students from going out of the school compound. After the morning assembly, many students would walk out of the school compound, some would go back home, some would go to their friends house, some would go to play, some would come into the school through bush track etc. Many crimes were recorded & reported in our school then. The situation really got out of hand. To curb all these situations, our principal then (Mr Ekefre) did something! We got to the school one day & found out that, they have used white canvas like paint to draw a line round the school compound. On getting to the assembly ground, the principal came to address us and said, ' We now have a fence in this school. That white line you see is the school fence for now! Once y...

A friend told us a story yesterday of how her mummy called her around 10:00pm & asked to quickly fry eggs for her. She said she told her mum she was too tired& pleaded with her to allow her fry it in the morning. The mother insisted on eating the egg that night but the lady prevailed& the mother kept quiet over the matter& went to sleep. Early in the morning, the lady went into the kitchen and fried few eggs& garnished it well. She knocked her mum's door to serve her the egg and hot tea. There was no answer. She forcefully opened the door & woke the mum up to eat her egg, but alas, the mother was dead!!! She screamed! She shook her! She shouted, ' Mummy!Mummy!, Stand up and eat your egg. I even made hot tea for you with it, mummy I am sorry, ' Hot tears rolling down her cheek like a might torrent. It was too late! Her mum was gone! She said, that scene of that night when her mum was begging her to fry egg for her kept hunting her memory for lon...

Last week we discussed on how sisters delay their marriage and to day let's talk about brothers too.   When you are young, marriage is a stunning and most fruitful component because it is now not actually that you each have the chance to share your young age and ancient age and share their memories with each other, marrying young. For any couple, getting married is one of the most thrilling things but some spirits and attitudes of most guys however, impede to prolong many guys to marrying early or not   getting married at all. BELOW ARE   THE REASONS WHY MANY GUYS MARRY LATE:- 1.FEAR OF COMMITMENT : This is one cause why some guys dread getting married. In this way, their mindset is "how can I be in-love with one lady, all my love and affection for the relaxation of my life?" "For the leisure of my life, I can no longer devour genuinely egusi soup." "Variety is the spice of life." Some say, "I cannot assume about waking up subsequent to th...

Women are really beautiful creatures. In every culture women are beautified. In precolonial African societies women were well groomed. The Fattening Rooms were the beauty salons where women were made curvy and their skins pampered with palm kernel oils. They were also lectured on the etiquette of femininity. Contemporary women go a long way to look glam and fab. Most women today are truly beautiful. Time and money is devoted to be beautiful. It's a beauty regimen from hair to toes. Women of today spend a fortune on hair care. Braiding of all types, perming, fixing of weavons, and wigs are deployed by the womenfolk to look enchanting and endearing. The face is the focus of most women and no expense is spared to achieve amazing facial. There are professional make up artists who can transform a plain looking woman to a beauty queen. The majority of women keep a make up kit in their bags that contain a cornucopia of brushes, foundation powder, mirror, eye pencil, lip sticks, concealers...

1. Books help you to feel more confident. 2. Books help you to travel around the world in the cheapest way. 3. Books develop your personality. 4. Books provide food for thought. 5. Books make you laugh and think. 6. Books draw you towards perfection. 7. Books stimulate creativity. 8. Books bring out writing talent. 9. Books help you in communicating. 10. Books clear your vision. 11. Books satisfy your curiosity. 12. Books help you make better choices. 13. Books help you build literary talent. 14. Books do not require any special device to teach. 15. Books increase your attention span. 16. Books are fruitful pastime. 17. Books can be used anytime, anywhere. 18. Books provide entertainment, when others fail. 19. Books make you powerful. 20. Books help you know the 'Whys' and 'Hows' of everything. 21. Books help you to create and spread fun. 22. Books help you travel across time intelligently. 23. Books keep you updated with facts and figures. 24. Books spread love, affect...

Why are my prayers not answered? Why are my wishes not come true? Why are my children's friends and mates all married and I'm the only one left? Why are my mate driving in their cars while I can't even buy a motorcycle for myself? If these are similar to your thoughts, it is time to ACCESS and ASSESS the MOTIVES behind your desires.  Often times we desire things not out of need but just to show off and to prove to our friends that we've arrived? This kind of mind set pushes us into something and situation that will make us regret later in life. Many people today are stuck and in the middle of now where maybe in a relationship, marriage, career etc because of wrong motives.  Wrong motives may prevent you from achieving your purpose and success in life. It may feel good initially for your desires to come true, but later on it may turns disastrous. Therefore, before you desire and want something, ACCESS the MOTIVES behind your wants.  It is good to get married, own a car, ...

I remember a guy when I was still a teenager. He told me as at that time about his sexual adventure and recklessness. As at the time I was 17 years old, this guy was 18 years old and he had had sex with 65 ladies at that time; both married and single ladies. I shook my head for him and I asked in amazement how he was able to build such huge records of sin. He told me, 'I don't zip my zip and many times, I don't wear pant or boxer. I tuck out my shirt always, so it can cover the unzipped zips of my trouser. Dave, this is what we call 'k'usôp usôp ' .( 'ku'sôp usôp means, something that will fasten your work). I wept for him and he eventually became a shadow of himself. Till now, he could not 'stand' up in life. What a pity! Many guys/men/boys go about today with "Unzipped zips'. Though they zipped up the zips of their physical trousers but in their mindset and mentality, they go about with unzipped zips. When intentionally you don't z...

There are six external activities that can help you build a strong intimacy in your relationship and marriage. #1. Laughing Together: Laughter is a doorway to intimacy. It is like an instant vacation in a marriage and the best way to keep perspective when things go wrong. If you laugh together, you can cry together, and thereby feel more ready to trust each other when communicating feelings. If you can find humor in everything, you can survive anything. Do not take things so seriously. Learn to stop yourself when you are ready to get angry and instead use the love language of laughter. If this is your behavior at home, then you can take this behavior on the road through phone calls and little creative things you can do while you are away. #2. Encouraging Each Other: Become each other’s cheerleader. Learn how to encourage and support your spouse’s activities. Listen and really take an interest in the things your spouse likes to do. Express respect for your husband. Every chance ...

Are you okay? this was his beautiful question of a three years old boy to me, I could answer but he came closer and hugged me and the next question was something that would certainly make you laugh. In your mind questions are racing to figure out the next beautiful question of this three years old kid to me, Well, I could have just written it but I had to take a long pause of suspense to get all in, in that emotions, yes it was a beautiful moment that the emotions get me out of the quarantine emotions, then he said. I was out of mind when its comes to that moment of rare emotions in this days of uncertainty, understanding those emotions could be tough and deciding on the guilt it makes you consume yourself in as something that adds to the craziness of the quarantine moments. He only wanted to ask me a question of assurance, he said, oh first he called my name and asked me, hey are you still my girlfriend? Oh, mine, did my emotion gave him a blackout of that question, I could...

Give her royal estate unto another that is better than she. Esther 1:19. Vashi the queen was asked to be brought before the king with the royal crown to show the people and the princes her beauty for she was fair to be looked upon. But, unfortunately, she blantly refused and this caused her her royal crown, her place and her queenly position. Ladies in the house, whether married or single. Can I tell you the truth mas? If you don't hold tight your marriage or your relationship; some ladies and powers are waiting to take your queenly position. Do you know that some women are not happy that you are happy in that marriage. Some are obsessed with your husband and don't mind being the second wife to him.  Some thought they would end up their lives with him but unfortunately life happened and it did not work out the way they planned it. Even the enemy is planning to displace you in that marriage. Now don't you think we all need wisdom and more wisdom to win? some...

Relationships have always been perceived in a certain way by humans. Since time in history, the status quo is that men should be with women who are younger. In the African setting, most of our parents have a three to five year age gap where in this case our fathers are obviously the older ones.  Even in the creation story, Adam was created before Eve. Thinking about it logically, it already gives the impression that Adam was older and Eve was younger even though their ages are not talked about in any Holy Scripture. They could have been the exact same age, who knows?  This younger woman-older man dynamic is one that has been debated for some time now. With the growing number in divorce cases and broken relationships all over the world, people have started to question if some of the things they knew about love are wrong. More so when it comes to age. Is it just a number or does it play a crucial role in the dynamics of a relationship? Let’s find out:- 1. Differen...

Few years ago, a lady came to my house for some issues she was going through. Apart from those marital issues, she was also battling with epilepsy. As we were talking, she told me that, one of the things that do piss her off was the way her family members & friends use to ask her ' have you taken your drug?'. 'Have you bought your drugs?, etc. I was trying to understand why those questions were getting her angry whenever they asked her; & her reply was ' they should not call it MY DRUGS'. She said, "those drugs are just drugs, they are not my drugs. Why are they personalizing it to me as if the drugs are customized for me or as if I am the only one with such issue. I really learnt from her words. Friends, what is that challenge you are passing through presently and people are already seeing it as 'you drugs'? May be you yourself are already calling it 'my cross', 'my obot' (destiny), 'my fate', etc. I want you...

1. When entering the house greet your children or even hug them. This should help develop their sense of love and self worth. 2. Be good to your neighbors and never backbite. Never speak ill of other drivers when on the road. Your children would listen, absorb and emulate. 3. When calling your parents, encourage your children to speak to them. When visiting your parents take your children with you. The more they see you take care of your parents the more they will learn to take care of you. 4. When driving them to school, don’t always play albums or CD's in the car. Rather, tell them some motivational stories yourself. This will have a greater impact – trust me! 5. Read to them a short story and even a scripture a day – it doesn’t take much time, but very good in creating strong bonds and wonderful memories. 6. Comb your hair, clean your teeth and wear presentable clothes even if sitting at home and not going out for the day. They need to learn that being cl...