YOU MUST HAVE YOUR OWN FENCE TOO

When I was in secondary school, my school did not have a fence round the school apart from the one built in front for the gateman, others areas like the backside and the rest were left open. At that time, it was difficult to restrain the students from going out of the school compound. After the morning assembly, many students would walk out of the school compound, some would go back home, some would go to their friends house, some would go to play, some would come into the school through bush track etc. Many crimes were recorded & reported in our school then. The situation really got out of hand.

To curb all these situations, our principal then (Mr Ekefre) did something! We got to the school one day & found out that, they have used white canvas like paint to draw a line round the school compound. On getting to the assembly ground, the principal came to address us and said, ' We now have a fence in this school. That white line you see is the school fence for now! Once you cross that line when it is not closing time & when not on official errand, it means you have jumped the school fence & that means , you will be dismissed from the school for jumping the school fence...'

From that day, we noticed orderliness in the school. Even during the break time, if you are playing on the school field & your friend is running after you, once you are getting close to the 'school fence', you must make a u-turn lest you are taken as a culprit. Until Mr. Ekefre was transferred from that school, that line was the invisible fence we had at the back and sides of the school and all students respected the 'fence'.

Friends, I sensed many of us need to build our own "fence" by drawing our own line! If your life is too porous, you will end up a disaster. Set up principles, values, rules, regulations for your life that you& everyone around you must respect. There are lines people must not cross in your life. There are lines you too must not cross. Is not everything you must eat. It is not everywhere you must eat! Young lady, you are no more a virgin? That's not a problem. Now, set an imaginary line under you as a new virginity, that, no man passes this 'place' again until my wedding night!

Friends, don't allow negative people in your life. Draw the line! If your life does not have its own 'fence', anything can walk in and out of your life and such porous life is dangerous. Don't be a lose person. Build sexual fence. Be discipline in sexual matters. Build communication fence. It is not every thing you must say. It is not everything you must hear. It is not every song you must sing. It is not every call you must answer. Guard your life, relationship, ministry, family from unnecessary intruders and looseness.

In conclusion: "He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls". (Proverbs 25:28)

My principal built a line fence, I'll build mine, build your own fence too!

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