Few
years ago, a lady came to my house for some issues she was going through. Apart
from those marital issues, she was also battling with epilepsy. As we were
talking, she told me that, one of the things that do piss her off was the way
her family members & friends use to ask her ' have you taken your drug?'.
'Have you bought your drugs?, etc. I was trying to understand why those
questions were getting her angry whenever they asked her; & her reply was '
they should not call it MY DRUGS'. She said, "those drugs are just drugs,
they are not my drugs. Why are they personalizing it to me as if the drugs are
customized for me or as if I am the only one with such issue.
I
really learnt from her words. Friends, what is that challenge you are passing
through presently and people are already seeing it as 'you drugs'? May be you
yourself are already calling it 'my cross', 'my obot' (destiny), 'my fate',
etc. I want you to know that, it is just ' a drug', not 'your drug'. That
setback, that disappointment, that barrenness, that failure, that delay, that
sickness, that pain and suffering are not your own. Never say , 'my problem',
'my failure', my barreness'. Never personalize or customize whatever you are
passing through as your own. You might be passing through it, but that does not
mean it is yours.
Change
your language. Reject it instantly when people call any problem or challenge
your own. Say like that lady, ' It is just a drug, not my drug'. Don't claim
the name of any problem as yours. Swimming through the river does not mean the
river belongs to you. You will soon come out of this river of problem and
challenges because I am sure that, it is just a drug, not your drug! Be encouraged!
Stay positive!