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WHAT WORK FOR OTHERS MIGHT NOT WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Some wash their husband's clothes and it works for them. Others don't and amazingly it works for them too.

 Some cook for their husband and it works for them. Others don't and shockingly, it works for them.

Some are full time house wife and it works perfectly for them. Others are not and trust me, it also works for them.

Some contribute to the upkeep of their home and it works for them, others don't and it also works for them.

Some are in distance relationship and it works for them, others are in a close relationship and it works for them.
Some sleep in the same room and it works for them, others don't and amazingly it works for them.

Every relationship works and will only work if everybody understands that no two relationships or marriages are the same, no two individuals are exactly the same, and no two situations are exactly the same.

Even when the situations are the same, the individuals are not and even if the individuals are the same, the circumstances surrounding those relationships/marriages are not the same.

We come online daily and read tons of articles about what people do in their marriage, the one that don't wash is calling the one that washes a slave, the one that washes is calling the one that don't wash bad marriage (wife) material.

One of the major destruction to 21st century marriage is social media counselors, articles, posts and testimonies.

What works for you? How sure are you that the person you are copying is happy? My dear, you are not mad, you are not a slave, you are not rude for seeking happiness.

One of your major goal is to seek happiness and peace of mind in your marriage, it can only be gotten if you understand that even if your name is Victor married to Victoria, you are not the same as your Victoria neighbor that her husband also bears Victor. You guys are different and unique in your own ways. Please while you read things online. Please know what works for you. It might sound stupid to others but provided you have peace of mind and you are happy, please stick to it. 

Everybody have their own shares of challenges that comes with marriage and everyone has their different approach to it. If you must copy, know what you are copying, know who you married,
know you are different. 

Your marriage is not second hand, fake or outdated because you are not doing what people online says they are doing. How sure are you that they are doing it? Some will tell you to quit but they have been enduring for years even when theirs is worst than yours. 

Please have a mind of your own, know you are different and seek for peace of mind and happiness in your marriage. It all depends on what works for you.

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