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DON'T DELAY YOUR MARRIAGE

Last week we discussed on how sisters delay their marriage and to day let's talk about brothers too.

 When you are young, marriage is a stunning and most fruitful component because it is now not actually that you each have the chance to share your young age and ancient age and share their memories with each other, marrying young. For any couple, getting married is one of the most thrilling things but some spirits and attitudes of most guys however, impede to prolong many guys to marrying early or not  getting married at all.

BELOW ARE  THE REASONS WHY MANY GUYS MARRY LATE:-

1.FEAR OF COMMITMENT :

This is one cause why some guys dread getting married. In this way, their mindset is "how can I be in-love with one lady, all my love and affection for the relaxation of my life?" "For the leisure of my life, I can no longer devour genuinely egusi soup." "Variety is the spice of life." Some say, "I cannot assume about waking up subsequent to the equal lady in mattress each morning." Let me have some increased loving existence alone. But a few guys grew to be "Manchelors" suddenly. People are now pressured about whether or not or no longer you have to be in the church men's fellowship or childhood fellowship

2. I AM THE FIRST BORN IN THE FAMILY:

The repute of being a first-born comes with responsibilities, no doubt. Some humans journey they have to be the Lord and Savior of the household via potential of fixing all of their household problems. My brother, you can no longer remedy all of your dad's problems. There is already some different one in the queue ready for you when you patch one.

3. FREE SERVICES/MINISTRATIONS:

Some guys don't care about getting married as the marriage benefits are already cherished and enjoyed via the usage of them. They would say  "When I have babes who affords me sex free", they say "Why I get married now? She's coming to my house to cook dinner dinner for me and she's doing all my laundry work." "Why should I purchase all of the Cow if I get a steady grant of cow's milk?" by accomplishing great sacrifice to achieve points of consideration stuff, I blame the lady who presents such free ministries. May the milk no longer purge you as you drink it, my brother.

4. BEING OVERLY SELECTIVE:

For some men, no female is ever outstanding enough. She is no longer properly educated. She speaks fluent English. She's got tribal markings. She has k-legs. I select a female with a pointed nose, a flat chest, long legs, a huge waist, and bird-like golden eyes. She's an OND holder, I'm a holder of a master's degree, no longer my class. Bro, hope you be aware of you are now no longer a class like some distinct guy, too? When you are jobless, she need to be a working-class lady. You don't have work, but you want a working-class female who will pay your bills. Brother the level of your greed demands a 7 day crusade.

5. MUMMY'S CHOICE:

Some men are now not married or find it hard to get married due to the fact they wish to comply with their mother's specifications. If his mom the first lady say No or disapprove the lady, he calls the lady to leave. These kind of men have mother's who give them commands to get married in their village. The female should belong to the identical tribe as you. We have been born into the Church of God's Assemblies, and the Lady come from the Church of God's Assemblies, so we remain assembled. It's properly done, brother, It's your scattered mind, my brother, that you want to assemble.

6. I MUST BE A MILLIONAIRE FIRST, I MUST BE RICH:

It's no longer by means of your power and wealth that you grew to become a millionaire, then again with the aid of way of the choose of God. If you've been ready for cash for a prolonged time, and it is now not coming, are you going to maintain waiting? As a bachelor, now not surely anyone is destined to be a millionaire. After they get married, some come to be millionaires. So, my brother, pick out your choice.

7. THE LADY'S MAN:

Because of their desirable looks, you experience younger and new. You agree with that via dating them, you are doing each female that comes your way a favor. They are the ones chasing you, and you nearly erupt with pleasure with your shoulders that have puffed up 50 50 shoulder pads. All of a sudden, one morning, you wake up to detect you are forty years historical and nevertheless feeling youthful with sagging trousers. Brother, you prefer your self and your self to have a meeting. You are not going to be a bobo forever.

8. LORD OF THE RINGS:

This spirit tells you to toast girls here and there with rings, and for 10-15 years, alternatively no marriage, they dangle on to the rings. You know the lady's family, but you be aware of in the coronary heart of your coronary heart that you're not ready, but you scare the different suitors away from her. You make the female accept as true with that thru the rings you have made a promise, however these rings are nothing short of key holders and handcuffs.

You're the spiritual husband that humans dream about ...

Avoid promoting handcuffs and key holders to people's daughters in the title of engagement rings.

I lose any chain that holds marriages from taking area in our brothers in  Jesus Name! ' may our brothers be identified at the right time.

May you recognize authentic love in the name of Jesus when you see it.

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