VIRGINS AND MASTURBATION
I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from
ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate.
There is no debate on that. I'm not here to argue about who masturbates most, I
need to deal with a serious issue.
Sexual urge for virgins is
strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the
hear says about sex.
Masturbation is fondling your
genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while
guys rub, massage or caress their penis. I decided to give explicit explanation
because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especially non-virgins
use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a
penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).
From teenage upward, you will
have a strong desire for sex. It's a sure sign you are normal and capable of
having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and
intense! You may wake up feeling horny for no single reason in the world or go
hot on spotting a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you
have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get worked
up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and
discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven't committed any sin.
So what then do you do when you
get hot and horny? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will
never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They
give themselves release and pleasure through solo sex while claiming virginity
at the same time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me
explain:
1. Masturbation is not done in
isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an
EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of
having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL
FORNICATION
2. For ladies, while inserting
all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce
infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince
your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your
solo sex.
3. You kill your ability to
enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don't enjoy sex in marriage which leads
to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to
getting orgasm by yourself, you won't be able to get it from your husband. If
you are used to objects in your private part, you won't have feelings for your
husband's penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer,
larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands' penis are
too small didn't marry as virgins. They must have been promiscuous as singles.
4. You will not have a good sex
life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won't
enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self
control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman
enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating.
Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able
to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied
and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether
which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you
having an affair. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the
maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have
excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total
virginity pays!
5. If you do not suffer
premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded
ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without
ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough
masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your
wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable
to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It's the reason some women are
seemingly "barren" and can't talk to anybody out of embarrassment.
Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex
altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining
from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual
intercourse and enjoy the pleasure that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!
6. You start having sex in the
dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities otherwise known as
spiritual spouse).
7. You feel drained, dirty,
empty, useless and powerless after each act.
8. You start getting
unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start
longing for the real act.
9. You get a warped view of the
opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything
in skirt or trousers -you become promiscuous.
10. You get damaged, hurt and
broken.
11. You are at risk of hell
fire!
These and more are the
consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces!
What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the
constant hunger for sex?
1. Avoid all dirty pictures,
pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual
triggers!
2. Avoid friends who say dirty,
lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things
that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.
3. Get busy with your life,
education and career, there is more to life than sex.
5. Study the word a lot
especially Psalm 119. When you are filled with the word, you have no space for
the devil and his demons in your heart.
6. Pray and speak in tongues
always. It sanctifies you.
7. Make friends with godly
people.
8. Avoid pornography and
romantic movies.
9. Get busy in kingdom service.
10. Give your life to Jesus if
you are not born again. He will surely help you out.
Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic,
destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply
involved in it. Jesus can help you. Please share with friends you might save
somebody s future