Skip to main content

TEENAGERS IN LOVE

More and more teenagers are into the dating world, some are into their age mates while other girls are dating men far older. Well meaning teens have confessed they are in love, they want to know if they are with the right partner and how to make their relationships successful. I won't deny the fact that some women married very early and have marriages that last decades e.g, Nigerian actress: Omotola Jolade Ekehinde among others, I must also confess, it has its challenges too. Your family background, parental upbringing, maturity and spiritual life determine how you will turn out in marriage!


Omotola for one married a man far older and had an active job to take responsibilities as a man. He wasn't some teenage boy looking for love somewhere. She herself was already hustling after her father's death to take care of her siblings. She was into modeling and anything that could make money and take care of siblings. She had a sense of responsibility. She had an active vision for her life she was pursuing, she was mature and sound and more, she was sexually disciplined! The challenge I have with today's teens is no sense of direction, their purposelessness, visionlessness and carelessness. You don't date because you want to have fun, experiment sex and hangout, you go into courtship because you have a vision and you need someone help you fulfil your vision. What is your vision in life? What do you want to become?


A successful marriage is not cheap! It requires a high level of discipline and maturity which most teenagers today don't have. Most are still being spoon fed by dad and mummy. You can't even write your WAEC without the help of special centers. You can't do anything sensible without being monitored. You lack control over your mouth and sex organs. Once you have a urge, you must masturbate and watch porn. You don't know John 3:16 talk less of turning open the pages of the Bible and you want to marry, to do what? Look into each other's eye balls? You are seriously joking! Look, marriage is more than, "I love you, I love you". It involves the change of diapers, cooking and sweating in the kitchen, screaming out the name of your toddler, jumping out at 5am seeking your daily bread, paying rent and bills, handling conflicts, pressures and challenges of life which hits everyone, everyone!


Emotion is unstable, it fizzles at the face if challenges, you need stability of character and all round maturity: spiritual, physical, financial, economical, psychological, emotional to weather the storms that often hit marriages whether you like it or not. If you can't let go of distractions, face your studies and shun all immorality and everything that takes your attention from Christ, your studies and your vision, you are not ready for marriage. An unshakable focus on your God given destiny in life while doing everything to attain it by shunning all distraction is a sign of maturity. Dating as a teenager is a distraction. For how long do you want to date and what will you be doing? Hold hands, have sex and frolic? You are 16, you want to marry at 25 and you are into an 18 year old boy, what will you be doing together in 9 years? How do you plan to control your sexual urge with your hormones raging as a teenager? How many abortions would you have had within that 9 years? Look, save your head from unnecessary trouble.


Tell that boy disturbing you to wait for you if he is really in love. You need to face your education, graduate in flying colors and end up as a woman of substance. You are not just created to marry, you have a destiny to fulfill. Let that girl wait for you while you build up yourself into a man worth emulating and modeling, a man of dignity, honour, substance and value. There is more to you than just getting married and having children. You are here to fulfil your destiny, focus on your destiny!

Dont Forget To Read

Making partners happy in a relationship

𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐇𝐔𝐒𝐁𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐘 : 1. Feed him 2. Sleep with him 3. Leave him in peace 4. Don't check his phone (Messages) 5. Don't bother him with his movements 6. Clean the house 7. Wash his clothes 8. Always pray for him. So what's so hard about that? 𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐖𝐈𝐅𝐄 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐘 : It's really not too difficult but... To make a wife happy, a husband only needs to be: 1. A friend 2. A companion 3. A lover 4. A brother 5. A father 6. A master 7. A chef 8. An electrician 9. A plumber 10. A mechanic 11. A carpenter 12. A decorator 13. A stylist 14. A sexologist 15. A gynecologist 16. A psychologist 17. A pest exterminator 18. A psychiatrist 19. A healer/prayer 20. A good listener 21. An organizer 22. A good father 23. Very clean 24. Sympathetic 25. Athletic 26. Warm 27. Attentive 28. Gallant 29. Intelligent 30. Funny 31. Creative 32....

The Rise and Fall of AfroBeat

L Like any music genre, is influenced by a multitude of factors including cultural shifts, socio-political dynamics, and changes in artistic trends. Afrobeat, a genre that originated in West Africa in the late 1960s and was popularized by Nigerian musician Fela Kuti, experienced significant growth and international recognition during its peak in the 1970s and 1980s. During this time, Fela Kuti's revolutionary lyrics, infectious rhythms, and fusion of traditional African music with jazz, funk, and highlife elements resonated with audiences around the world. Afrobeat became not only a genre of music but also a symbol of resistance against oppression and a platform for social and political commentary. However, Afrobeat's popularity waned in the following decades due to various factors. One significant factor was Fela Kuti's death in 1997, which marked the end of an era and led to a decline in mainstream attention towards Afrobeat. Additionally, the rise of other music genres a...

A WISE MAN ONCE SAID

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to; 2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes. 3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner. 4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem; 5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public; 6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time; 7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you....

THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN

When a woman marries a man because of money and physical beauty and a man marries a woman because of beauty, forgotten that Is better with Idea woman and man and have peace at home . Although handsome men and beautiful ladies is very good, but let it not be because of the outside beauty alone but inside beauty as well because that is what made you who u really are, because someone like me I always cherish beautiful children with good character, God made men and women physically beautiful so that men will appreciate his hand work and give glory to him, the beauty God gave us is not what makes us wrong man and woman, it is our decisions, our attitudes, our lifestyles, our believes, if a man decide to follow the ways of God and fear him God will beautify him and distinguish him from others and if a woman decided to use her beauty, her body to serve God, God will make her a virtuous woman blessed among others, the problems many women have is that they don't know the blessedness of b...

TO ALL MY FRIENDS AND ENEMIES

1. Once upon a time I met a man who told me that telling the truth and making someone cry, is better than telling a lie and making someone smile and happy. 2. He said to me your true friends are those who will never avoid you just because they have met new friends. 3. As he kept on speaking to me, he said If some people do not appreciate and value my presence, I should work hard to make them value and appreciate my absence. 4. He said I must not be angry with anyone who is quiet on me because there must be a reason why they are quiet, and that I will get to know the reason later. 5. He told me it is always better to be a blessing to others at all times than to be a burden at all times. 6. He said I must learn to forgive others not because they deserve it but because I deserve the peace that comes with forgiveness. 7. I must know that everyone deserves a second chance and many more chances if they ask for forgiveness, but I must not loose my guard over their intentions....