For the
last several years, the world has done all it could to bastardize, re-define
and pervert the issue of sex and the church has largely kept silent or give
conflicting answers to the ungodly ways of the world.
Majority
of the church, including her topmost leaders have been confused about the
relationship between sexuality and spirituality, thereby failing to provide
clear teachings and examples to the church of God. Quite sad, that the moral
apostasy of the world have gradually crept into high places in the church. Some
sections of the church today see nothing wrong in homosexuality, lesbianism,
pornography, rape, masturbation and all kinds of sexual pervasions, which in
turn have eroded the spiritual impact of the church and turned her largely to
social and secular entities. It’s time to go back to the Bible and seek the
mind of God concerning sexuality and spirituality afresh.
A. Biblical
Foundation :–
Gen. 2:25; 4:1; 1 Samuel 1:19; Eccl. 9:9; 1 Cor. 7:1-5; Heb. 13:4
Sex is
the deep relationship between a man and a woman involving the union of the
reproduction organs of the body. It is the penetration of the female organ by
the male organ, otherwise referred to as intercourse.
➢ Sex
was not created by the devil, but by God.
➢ Sex
is to be between a man and a woman only.
➢ It is
meant for married couples only.
➢ It is
dignifying, healthy, wholesome and pleasurable within marriage.
➢ It is
to be practiced with consent of male and female.
➢ Every
living thing has sexuality – animals, flowers, trees and man.
➢ Sex
is a medium of contact, transfer and contamination for blessings or curses.
➢ The
scripture is clear on who we can and cannot have sex with – Lev. 18:6-30
In most
cases, spirituality and sexuality goes together. Spirituality is when you know
God personally, intimately; you worship Him in Spirit and truth; walk according
to His word and will; walk in His Spirit – showing forth the fruits of
godliness in your life. Such spirituality is also housed; in a body that has
sexual notions, feelings and desires. It must be done biblically. The spiritual
being is also a sexual being. Your spirituality should not disturb your
sexuality.
B. Ungodly
Sex That Destroys Your Spirituality
:– 1 Cor. 6:15-19; Neh. 13:26
Sex is
very unique. It happens in two ways:
i.
Internal sex – thoughts, feelings, fantasies, lust and adulterous eyes.
ii.
External sex – with your spouse or anyone outside marriage.
The
scripture has not left us in doubt as to the spiritual implications of ungodly
sex on our spirituality.
1.Lot –
Gen. 19:30-38 - He slept with his two daughters.
2.Reuben
– Gen. 49:3-4 – He slept with his father’s wives and received curses.
3.Shechem
– Gen. 34:1-31 – A whole town was destroyed because of rape.
4.Judah
– Gen. 38:13-18 – Slept with his daughter in-law.
5.Children
of Israel – Numbers 25:1-8
6.Samson
– Judges 16:1-4 – Slept with prostitutes and strange women.
7.King
David – 2 Samuel 11:1-4 – Slept with the wife of his servant.
8.Amnon
– 2 Sam. 13:11-15 – He raped his blood sister.
9.Absalom
– 2 Samuel 16:21-22 – He slept with his father’s 10 wives.
10.King
Solomon – 1 Kings 11:1-4 – He married 1,000 wives and forgot his God.
11.A
New Testament believer – 1 Cor. 5:1 - He slept with his father’s wife.
12.Unbelievers
in Paul’s day – Romans 1:26-27, 31 – They practiced homosexuality and
lesbianism.
Most and
every one of these people ended up tragically. Sexual pervasions such as rape,
sodomy, masturbation, pornography, group sex, adultery, fornication almost
always destroy here and hereafter.
❖ God
hates all kinds of sexual pervasion and will judge it severely.
❖
Ungodly sex takes spiritual deposits away from you – Prov. 6:23-33
❖ No
sexually immoral person/minister enjoys God’s favour – Neh. 13:26
❖ You go
into sex full but come out empty of your destiny.
❖ It is
Satan’s strategy to ruin men/ministers – Prov. 7:26-27
❖ It is
used to destroy anyone with a bright future.
❖
Occultic powers use it to ruin great men and kill them.
❖ One
round of ungodly sex takes away 20 years of anointing – Prov. 23:27-28.
Most men
and women have their spiritual power in their bodies. Many have made demonic
pact and covenant with their physical bodies. The avenue to wealth of occultic
and demonic people is the holy bodies of men and women. Therefore many ladies
are on assignment with their bodies (Prov. 26:25-26) Joining your body with
another in the act of ungodly sex is a covenant you may never be free from. It
will only take the grace and mercy of God. (Prov. 3:27-28).
C. How
To Balance Your Spirituality And Sexuality
Because
sexual desire and feeling are God-given, you can’t cast it out any more than
you can cast out the demon of desiring food, the demon of wanting to sleep
every night or the demon of desire to use the bathroom very so often. If you
pray for God to take away your sexual desire, you are wasting your time.
The only
way to be completely free of sexual desire is to castrate yourself! But even at
that, the desire will still be there as long as you have a healthy body. Self
control and proper discipline is the key. The temptation will always be there,
but you can always overcome it by adhering to these principles:
1.
Repent sincerely and genuinely of past sexual sins.
2.
Recognize and handle your body as the temple of God – 1 Cor. 16:18-19
3. Watch
your thoughts and your heart – Prov. 4:23 – Don’t allow the spirit of lust.
4.
Discipline your body and determine to be pure – 1 Cor. 9:27
5. Stop
watching pornography and masturbation.
6. Run
from stimulants, parties and clubs – Alcohol spices up immorality in heart.
7. Marry
and maintain your marriage for sexual satisfaction.
8. Stop
walking at the brink of sin. - Run, if you have to like Joseph.
9. Soak
your heart, body and spirit in the word of God and prayers – Psalm 119:9-11
10.
Raise barriers that will shield you from sexual sins.
11. Be
honest and open with your mentor, leader and godly friends.
12.
Control your eyes, emotions and feelings – Nothing overcomes without, unless it
has first overcome within.
13. Walk
in the Spirit – Galatians 5:16 – Let the Spirit of God prevail over your heart
and life, not the flesh.
14.
Beware of daughters, members, maids, single parents, divorces and widows who
visit you and develop an admiration for you.
15. Keep
your spiritual relationship with the Lord – Heb. 12:15
Become
so spiritually strong and alive in the Lord that no satanic trap will succeed
over you here. Become spiritually sensitive to the wiles and tricks of the
devil to deprive you of your God along this area. Don’t sell your birthright
for mess of porridge.
⇒
Don’t surrender your body to sexual covenants.
⇒
Don’t surrender your spiritual life to spirit of pervasion.
⇒
Don’t surrender your heaven to the bed of Delilah.
⇒
Don’t surrender your future to fornication and adultery.
⇒
Don’t surrender your anointing to lust and immorality.
⇒
Don’t surrender your impact to fleeting acts of destruction.
⇒
Don’t surrender your life to ruin and wrath of God.
⇒
Don’t surrender your destiny to sexual abuses and pervasion.
⇒
Don’t surrender your favour with God to free sex that destroys.
⇒
Don’t surrender your reward to erection and worldly pleasure.