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SPIRITUALITY AND SEXUALITY

For the last several years, the world has done all it could to bastardize, re-define and pervert the issue of sex and the church has largely kept silent or give conflicting answers to the ungodly ways of the world.
Majority of the church, including her topmost leaders have been confused about the relationship between sexuality and spirituality, thereby failing to provide clear teachings and examples to the church of God. Quite sad, that the moral apostasy of the world have gradually crept into high places in the church. Some sections of the church today see nothing wrong in homosexuality, lesbianism, pornography, rape, masturbation and all kinds of sexual pervasions, which in turn have eroded the spiritual impact of the church and turned her largely to social and secular entities. It’s time to go back to the Bible and seek the mind of God concerning sexuality and spirituality afresh.


A.     Biblical Foundation :– Gen. 2:25; 4:1; 1 Samuel 1:19; Eccl. 9:9; 1 Cor. 7:1-5; Heb. 13:4
Sex is the deep relationship between a man and a woman involving the union of the reproduction organs of the body. It is the penetration of the female organ by the male organ, otherwise referred to as intercourse.
➢ Sex was not created by the devil, but by God.
➢ Sex is to be between a man and a woman only.
➢ It is meant for married couples only.
➢ It is dignifying, healthy, wholesome and pleasurable within marriage.
➢ It is to be practiced with consent of male and female.
➢ Every living thing has sexuality – animals, flowers, trees and man.
➢ Sex is a medium of contact, transfer and contamination for blessings or curses.
➢ The scripture is clear on who we can and cannot have sex with – Lev. 18:6-30
In most cases, spirituality and sexuality goes together. Spirituality is when you know God personally, intimately; you worship Him in Spirit and truth; walk according to His word and will; walk in His Spirit – showing forth the fruits of godliness in your life. Such spirituality is also housed; in a body that has sexual notions, feelings and desires. It must be done biblically. The spiritual being is also a sexual being. Your spirituality should not disturb your sexuality.


B.     Ungodly Sex That Destroys Your Spirituality :– 1 Cor. 6:15-19; Neh. 13:26
Sex is very unique. It happens in two ways:
i. Internal sex – thoughts, feelings, fantasies, lust and adulterous eyes.
ii. External sex – with your spouse or anyone outside marriage.

The scripture has not left us in doubt as to the spiritual implications of ungodly sex on our spirituality.
1.​Lot – Gen. 19:30-38 - He slept with his two daughters.
2.​Reuben – Gen. 49:3-4 – He slept with his father’s wives and received curses.
3.​Shechem – Gen. 34:1-31 – A whole town was destroyed because of rape.
4.​Judah – Gen. 38:13-18 – Slept with his daughter in-law.
5.​Children of Israel – Numbers 25:1-8
6.​Samson – Judges 16:1-4 – Slept with prostitutes and strange women.
7.​King David – 2 Samuel 11:1-4 – Slept with the wife of his servant.
8.​Amnon – 2 Sam. 13:11-15 – He raped his blood sister.
9.​Absalom – 2 Samuel 16:21-22 – He slept with his father’s 10 wives.
10.​King Solomon – 1 Kings 11:1-4 – He married 1,000 wives and forgot his God.
11.​A New Testament believer – 1 Cor. 5:1 - He slept with his father’s wife.
12.​Unbelievers in Paul’s day – Romans 1:26-27, 31 – They practiced homosexuality and lesbianism.

Most and every one of these people ended up tragically. Sexual pervasions such as rape, sodomy, masturbation, pornography, group sex, adultery, fornication almost always destroy here and hereafter.
❖ God hates all kinds of sexual pervasion and will judge it severely.
❖ Ungodly sex takes spiritual deposits away from you – Prov. 6:23-33
❖ No sexually immoral person/minister enjoys God’s favour – Neh. 13:26
❖ You go into sex full but come out empty of your destiny.
❖ It is Satan’s strategy to ruin men/ministers – Prov. 7:26-27
❖ It is used to destroy anyone with a bright future.
❖ Occultic powers use it to ruin great men and kill them.
❖ One round of ungodly sex takes away 20 years of anointing – Prov. 23:27-28.
Most men and women have their spiritual power in their bodies. Many have made demonic pact and covenant with their physical bodies. The avenue to wealth of occultic and demonic people is the holy bodies of men and women. Therefore many ladies are on assignment with their bodies (Prov. 26:25-26) Joining your body with another in the act of ungodly sex is a covenant you may never be free from. It will only take the grace and mercy of God. (Prov. 3:27-28).


C.     ​How To Balance Your Spirituality And Sexuality
Because sexual desire and feeling are God-given, you can’t cast it out any more than you can cast out the demon of desiring food, the demon of wanting to sleep every night or the demon of desire to use the bathroom very so often. If you pray for God to take away your sexual desire, you are wasting your time.

The only way to be completely free of sexual desire is to castrate yourself! But even at that, the desire will still be there as long as you have a healthy body. Self control and proper discipline is the key. The temptation will always be there, but you can always overcome it by adhering to these principles:
1. Repent sincerely and genuinely of past sexual sins.
2. Recognize and handle your body as the temple of God – 1 Cor. 16:18-19
3. Watch your thoughts and your heart – Prov. 4:23 – Don’t allow the spirit of lust.
4. Discipline your body and determine to be pure – 1 Cor. 9:27
5. Stop watching pornography and masturbation.
6. Run from stimulants, parties and clubs – Alcohol spices up immorality in heart.
7. Marry and maintain your marriage for sexual satisfaction.
8. Stop walking at the brink of sin. - Run, if you have to like Joseph.
9. Soak your heart, body and spirit in the word of God and prayers – Psalm 119:9-11
10. Raise barriers that will shield you from sexual sins.
11. Be honest and open with your mentor, leader and godly friends.
12. Control your eyes, emotions and feelings – Nothing overcomes without, unless it has first overcome within.
13. Walk in the Spirit – Galatians 5:16 – Let the Spirit of God prevail over your heart and life, not the flesh.
14. Beware of daughters, members, maids, single parents, divorces and widows who visit you and develop an admiration for you.
15. Keep your spiritual relationship with the Lord – Heb. 12:15
Become so spiritually strong and alive in the Lord that no satanic trap will succeed over you here. Become spiritually sensitive to the wiles and tricks of the devil to deprive you of your God along this area. Don’t sell your birthright for mess of porridge.
⇒ Don’t surrender your body to sexual covenants.
⇒ Don’t surrender your spiritual life to spirit of pervasion.
⇒ Don’t surrender your heaven to the bed of Delilah.
⇒ Don’t surrender your future to fornication and adultery.
⇒ Don’t surrender your anointing to lust and immorality.
⇒ Don’t surrender your impact to fleeting acts of destruction.
⇒ Don’t surrender your life to ruin and wrath of God.
⇒ Don’t surrender your destiny to sexual abuses and pervasion.
⇒ Don’t surrender your favour with God to free sex that destroys.
⇒ Don’t surrender your reward to erection and worldly pleasure.
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