1.
SEX: Yes I said it... When the sex
is too early, and too nice... Awe sure, everything else goes on hold and the
focus of the relationship is now just on doing. Sex to a growing relationship
is like chicken feed to broiler chickens.... It makes the relationship grow
very fast without corresponding strength.
Sex makes a GMR -
Genetically Modified Relationship, early maturing... Instead of thinking about
how to make the relationship better, you start thinking of how to make the next
sex escapade better. Instead of looking at whether the prospective partner is
good for life, you start looking at whether or not they are good in bed.
Instead of planning the future together, you start planning sex styles
together... As if you are planning on doing a Kamasutra movie.
2.
MONEY: It is no wonder scripture says; "the love of
money is the root of all evil or maybe even route to all evil".
Money can make you
marry an evil person. For instance, when a guy has money, wrong pizza bandits
start to make themselves available to him, increasing his chances of marrying a
bandit. He stops seeing the well behaved Komboni ladies.
In a similar manner,
when a lady has money, good guys with low self esteem get scared of her.... And
so she only attracts horny courageous chaps with nothing to offer but
"vitamin D" and a funny English accent..... Too much money could be a
barrier to a great choice of partner. Too much money gives you too much access
to wrong chaps... cadres. And if you are not careful, you end up marrying a
cadre. By the way, cadres are always up for sale to the highest bidder.
3. CHURCH: You know what? In the secular world, you are allowed to
kiss a few frogs before you meet your prince or princess charming. But the
church does not tolerate this. If you keep changing partners, the church tags
you as immoral.
So you are compelled to
stick with one wrong choir member chap for fear of being tagged. The chap could
be a candidate for heaven yes, but marry them and you will experience early
hell.
Just because someone
can speak in tongues doesn't mean they know how to speak to a spouse.
Also, because you don't
want to disappoint papa, you stay with and end up marrying a wrong but 'papa
approved' chap... And you will be there complaining to God in private prayers,
but still dating to please the church.
4.
GOOD LOOKS: Have you seen how super model beautiful chaps skit
when you approach them. Because they know they are in high demand, they ignore
good people and raise the bar of standards. As such, they miss out on good
people.
Also, when searching
for a partner, beauty is usually a louder attribute which tends to over shadow
all the other qualifications... Without noticing even the devil was as
beautiful as a bright shining star... Don't let those hips deceive you, don't
let that six pack cheat you... There is more to marriage than slaying.
As soon as you marry,
beauty becomes an added advantage.. but the chap you married only has beauty and
nothing else to add it to.
5.
FAMILY, FRIENDS AND RELATIVES: There is always that
one wrong aunty from the village who thinks they know better who you should
marry; "no, you can't marry that tribe.... no you can't marry someone with
such a career, awe ulya umwaume takulinga (that one doesn't suit you). And
before you know it, you are choosing and marrying for your family instead of
doing it for yourself. Some of you are in wrong relationships right now because
your friends told you that other guy was not cool enough.
You have no idea what
they meant but you listened to them... And now you are dating and almost
marrying a wrong person just because you had no courage to stand your.