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𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐋𝐄 𝐋𝐀𝐃𝐈𝐄𝐒, 𝐏𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐒𝐄 𝐃𝐎𝐍'𝐓 𝐋𝐀𝐔𝐆𝐇 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐒

Just yesterday, I met a long time friend of mine who is now a pastor. As we discussed a length, he also shared his proposal experience after telling him my proposal story how I was turned down by ladies in my church due to financial instability then.

𝐇𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝, 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫, 𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐝 𝐚 𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐫. 𝐇𝐞 said, when he finished proposing to the lady, she just started laughing. For more than 5 mins, she kept on laughing at this pastor. The pastor told me how he started checking himself up and down to be sure he did not poo on his body.

She laughed at him mockingly and she just left him there and she walked away.

The pastor told us that, after he became a pastor and went back to that church to serve, the father of that lady was one of the people that gave him so much honor. Her father will call this pastor , "Ete nyin ke Obong' , meaning, our father in the Lord.

Now, hear the concluding part of his story, he said, before that sister could marry, several prayers were made for her. Prayer warriors prayed! Church members prayed! Her case became a concern to everyone around her. She was so old in age before she could Sha manage to marry.

Don't misunderstand this post, I am not saying her marital delay was caused because she despised that pastor by laughing him to scorn. I am also not ruling out the possibility of that reality too. It might be that, she became a laughing stock Martially because she laughed at that brother mockingly.

Dear single ladies, let me say this to you. It is a privilege that a guy can come and propose to you. Whether he meets your standard or not. Whether he is fine or ugly. Whether he is educated or illiterate. It is an honor and privilege that men can approach you for marriage. There are many of your mates who are naked and roaming the streets as mad ladies despite their beauty and brain.

Even if you will not accept the marriage proposal of a guy, please, never laugh at him. Either openly or in your heart, never laugh at any guy mockingly lest you become a laughing stock Martially. Every marriage proposal you want to turn down should be turned down without crushing the ego and the esteem of that brother.

Many ladies are so proud of themselves in this generation! You look and treat guys as if they are trash just because they come to propose to you. You are using them to play game. You make jest of their weaknesses and downplay their strengths. Watch it lady! You are trending a dangerous road! If you continue like that, you will get to a point of delay in marital bus stop where you will be saying , 'Lord, just give me anybody"

Every child of God that comes to propose to you should be treated as a kingdom celebrity. There is a way you will say 'No' to a proposal and you will not kill or crush the Spirit of that brother.

This is my fatherly warning to all single ladies, please, don't laugh at any guy that comes to you lest people laugh at you when you are left behind Martially.

Let me beg those of you brothers who have been maltreated , mocked , insulted and laughed at by ladies just because you proposed love to them, please, forgive them and pray for them because they don't know what they were doing. Let your heart heal up and pray for them.

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