THERE IS NO PERFECT MAN OR WOMAN

The challenge I see all the time among young people is that they are looking for their ideal man and ideal woman. The truth is, your ideal man or ideal woman is married. That is why sometimes, some people fall in love with married people. They are not married yet but they fall in love with married people. You hear them say; oh..he is such a nice man, he has a good job, he is also kind, he has money, such an ideal man, he is this, he is that. Wonderful! Most of the time, this guy or lady who looks perfect was not like that before he or she got married. If in your vision, your husband is a CEO, can you recognise him when he is yet a CEO? That is what am talking about. I have an issues with guys who are almost turning bachelor holding into an institution.

There are lots of people around town who are not getting married because they want to be able to get a mansion, cars, and money. They will tell you, how can you marry a girl when you are not yet

settled financially and they have already gotten a job. They are waiting to have an ideal financial situation. I am telling you, if you are in that situation, you have been deceived.

What a lady need is not a perfect man in the present, this thing is about 10 years, 20 years, 30

years, 40years time. What she needs now is a man who have a vision, who can define exactly where he is going and who he is going to be. That is what defines the kind of wife he should marry. That is the essence of leadership is that you have a vision and you have the capacity to communicate it. You should be able to sell your vision to a lady. Listen! Ladies, if all of your assessment about a man; If what you are looking for is who the person is today, you will soon be deceived. Because the fact that he has a car now, is no guarantee he will have a car in five years time.

Making a choice for marriage is largely a matter of intuition. Some people, all they think about is the wedding day. In one day, they invest all their thought, energy and preparation. You hear them say; ah....my wedding...hmmm...the gown will come from Singapore. On the wedding day the Pastor say; say after me and the couple will say "I do" After that, what next? That is when some people remember there is honey moon. They will do honey moon for two to three weeks. After that, what next? Nothing! No idea because all they were thinking about was a wedding.

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THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN

When a woman marries a man because of money and physical beauty and a man marries a woman because of beauty, forgotten that Is better with Idea woman and man and have peace at home . Although handsome men and beautiful ladies is very good, but let it not be because of the outside beauty alone but inside beauty as well because that is what made you who u really are, because someone like me I always cherish beautiful children with good character, God made men and women physically beautiful so that men will appreciate his hand work and give glory to him, the beauty God gave us is not what makes us wrong man and woman, it is our decisions, our attitudes, our lifestyles, our believes, if a man decide to follow the ways of God and fear him God will beautify him and distinguish him from others and if a woman decided to use her beauty, her body to serve God, God will make her a virtuous woman blessed among others, the problems many women have is that they don't know the blessedness of b...

YOUR WIFE IS YOUR LIFE PARTNER NOT LIFE SERVANT

I cringed today when a man said if his wife does something he ‘commands’ her not to do, he'd send her out of his house back to her parents; that it's very wrong for a woman to disobey her husband no matter what. Well, I couldn't hold my chill, I opposed him passionately and he resorted to calling me a kid; “You won't understand till you get married.” That's always how they sound. Very manipulative old folks. Please single guys, when you wanna get married, just remind yourself that the woman you're getting married to will be your life partner, not your servant. You ain't doing her a favor by getting married to her, so don't ever feel that sending her back to her parents means she'll die or lose her womanhood. Your wife is not your errand girl, she's like a colleague and she's important like you in that marriage, so you don't command her to do things, you don't just give orders, No! Both of you are to reach a stand...

THE HARD TO GET MANTRA

Most of you are still single because you want to be chased so bad. Both guys and girls, this one is not gender war issue. You clearly have people that are good to you in your circle but because you want them to beg at your feet, you will prefer to carry single placard daily. You believe being chased is what makes you special. No, it isn't. What makes you special is when you are the right thing the other person is looking for. I mean the exact thing. You don't have to be chased. You can be chased and if you aren't the one for them, they will still dump you.

MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MARRIAGE

Uncle Etuk grinned when he saw his daughter, Idara and the husband Ime walked into the house. The old man, was on one of his rare visits to his daughter and in-law. He had to succumb after several pleas from his in-law to move from the confines of Mkpat Enin to Uyo to spend the Easter Holidays. This his in-law believed he needed to comfort the old man from loneliness after his wife’s demise three months ago. After dinner that evening, he whispered to his son in law that if they don’t mind, he would love to have a quick word with the couple after the children have gone to bed. By 9pm, the couple was back to the dinner table to hear what the old man had to say. He started by asking them a simple question “What is the most important thing in your life Idara? She replied, “Daddy, it is the kids, they mean everything to me”. He then turned and asked Ime, the son in law the same question, he also beaming with pride said: "it is the kids of course; they are the reason why ...

DON'T LOOSE YOUR INDEPENDENCE FOR A RELATIONSHIP

I know you are so glued and bonded in love with that person. You can't go a day without fantasying about them, you feel butterflies in your stomach, cool. It's a good thing to be in love, BUT.. No matter how love stricken you are, don't ever give a person an impression that you can't live without them. Don't ever make them feel you are miserable and hopeless without them. Don't make them think if they leave you, you'll never be happy again. No matter the love, don't lose your independence in a relationship. Because, that is the beginning of manipulation. When you give people the idea that you are miserable without them, automatically they consider you inferior and you become less attractive to them. They'll so exploit your vulnerability. That's why a lot of you are so madly in love with someone, but you hate the fact that you love them. You feel that you are so used. Yes!!! It's because you gave them a clue that life without ...

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