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THERE IS NO PERFECT MAN OR WOMAN

The challenge I see all the time among young people is that they are looking for their ideal man and ideal woman. The truth is, your ideal man or ideal woman is married. That is why sometimes, some people fall in love with married people. They are not married yet but they fall in love with married people. You hear them say; oh..he is such a nice man, he has a good job, he is also kind, he has money, such an ideal man, he is this, he is that. Wonderful! Most of the time, this guy or lady who looks perfect was not like that before he or she got married. If in your vision, your husband is a CEO, can you recognise him when he is yet a CEO? That is what am talking about. I have an issues with guys who are almost turning bachelor holding into an institution.

There are lots of people around town who are not getting married because they want to be able to get a mansion, cars, and money. They will tell you, how can you marry a girl when you are not yet
settled financially and they have already gotten a job. They are waiting to have an ideal financial situation. I am telling you, if you are in that situation, you have been deceived.

What a lady need is not a perfect man in the present, this thing is about 10 years, 20 years, 30
years, 40years time. What she needs now is a man who have a vision, who can define exactly where he is going and who he is going to be. That is what defines the kind of wife he should marry. That is the essence of leadership is that you have a vision and you have the capacity to communicate it. You should be able to sell your vision to a lady. Listen! Ladies, if all of your assessment about a man; If what you are looking for is who the person is today, you will soon be deceived. Because the fact that he has a car now, is no guarantee he will have a car in five years time.

Making a choice for marriage is largely a matter of intuition. Some people, all they think about is the wedding day. In one day, they invest all their thought, energy and preparation. You hear them say; ah....my wedding...hmmm...the gown will come from Singapore. On the wedding day the Pastor say; say after me and the couple will say "I do" After that, what next? That is when some people remember there is honey moon. They will do honey moon for two to three weeks. After that, what next? Nothing! No idea because all they were thinking about was a wedding.

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MARRY A BEST FRIEND

Friends play a vital role in our lives. The presence of friends in our lives is supposed to be a blessing. There is no security like having a friend who watches your back, guides you, assists you and listens to you. After creating man, God realized there was one thing missing, which was a lifetime friend for the man. That is why He instituted marriage; a lifetime friendship between a man and his wife. In this life, if any one will doubt us, not our friends. If anyone will give up on us, not our friends yet people we call friends, people we take bullets for, are the ones behind the trigger sometimes. Enemies who want to hurt you these days come into your life as your friend, just to have access to you. Satan has succeeded in creating counterfeits, including friends. If this is not the case, how can a husband of ten years of marriage tell his wife, “I no longer feel love for you so I want a divorce”, how can a wife married to wealthy man, leave him because he is now broke. People t...

HOW TO MEASURE SUCCESS

I will be very correct to tell you that many people out there who make use of the word “success” don’t even know what it means. Sometimes people thinks success is all about having fame, riches and respect. The English dictionary describes success as “the achievement of one’s aim or goal” . There are lot of definition and meaning of success but I will take that a more composed meaning, in other words it carries the definition and meaning.           To be successful does not mean you must have half of the world in your hands, or probably, ride on a Bugatti or Ferrari, to be a success don’t not mean you must live in coconut highland, have a mansion and But to the definition I took, success talks about achievement, which is the act of achieving or performing a successful performance. And after it said one’s aim and goal, the word one’s there means your. Now let’s configure the definition removing one’s and putting your, then it will ...

No matter how solid your bricks are, they can never stand on a sandy foundation.

v Crazy people don’t know they are crazy. I know I’m crazy therefore I’m not crazy, isn’t that crazy? v Humans and relations are like breeze…… they can fade away at any time. (Lynn Obiageli Ogunor) v The eye lashes are like umbrella when it rains from the heart. (Jay Electricity) v Don’t matter how far ahead I get, I always feet behind. (Big Sean) v I believe love could bring us closer than blood. (Alicia Keys & A$AP Rocky) v My love was stronger than your pride, beyond your darkness I’m your light, you get deep you touch my mind, baptize your tears and dry your eyes. (Beyonce Knowles) v The wise men followed the star, the way I followed my heart, and it led me to a miracle. (Justin Bieber) v These nights never seem to go to plan, I don’t want you to leave, will you hold my hand? (Sam Smith) v If the shoes don’t fit, we don’t quit, if the shoes are too tight, we sit home tonight. (Demon Wayans)

HOW TO INSTILL MANNERS IN YOUR CHILDREN

1. When entering the house greet your children or even hug them. This should help develop their sense of love and self worth. 2. Be good to your neighbors and never backbite. Never speak ill of other drivers when on the road. Your children would listen, absorb and emulate. 3. When calling your parents, encourage your children to speak to them. When visiting your parents take your children with you. The more they see you take care of your parents the more they will learn to take care of you. 4. When driving them to school, don’t always play albums or CD's in the car. Rather, tell them some motivational stories yourself. This will have a greater impact – trust me! 5. Read to them a short story and even a scripture a day – it doesn’t take much time, but very good in creating strong bonds and wonderful memories. 6. Comb your hair, clean your teeth and wear presentable clothes even if sitting at home and not going out for the day. They need to learn that being cl...

WAYS TO HONOR YOUR MAN

1. Respectfully communicate with him. Don't talk to him harshly, rudely or as a nobody. 2. Let him know he’s important to you. Always say it and show it. 3. Purposefully try to understand his feelings—even when you disagree with him. Minimize the frequency of your disagreement. 4. Show interest in his friends by giving him some time to be with them if they’re trust-worthy. 5. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. Don't impose what you love on him. 6. Tell him you both love him AND like him. 7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely. Allow him to enjoy and relax himself. 8. Protect his dignity on a daily basis. Don't talk bad of him and don't allow your friends to do same. 9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings also and not a saint. 10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your relationship. Look for ways to laugh together. 11. Try not to m...