Anger is the number
enemy to life and relationship, and it’s the destroyer of love, it’s one of the
major cause of devours in our days, and it’s the greatest treat, to marital harmony.
Anger is a secondary emotion which usually, comes from fear, hurt, disappointment
and frustration. When someone for instance say something nasty to you, first
you will be hurt, but by the time you replay the video tape of that word in
your heart it forms anger, but anger is a choice, you can choose to be angry
and you can choose not to. Anger should never be welcomed as a heart guest. Because
it has the ability to destroy the carrier and every other person around them. And
the amazing thing about is, you could be caring it for a long time, and the
offender may not even be aware of it. No angry spouse can be a lovely spouse at
the same time.
Anger
can be in a cycle, for instance, your boss can fill up your anger tank, you get
home and fill that of your wife, and your wife fills that of your children, if
you are not careful and you don’t control the things that comes to you during
the day, you will raise an angry generation. Anger can destroy the health of
the carrier, anger forms a conic hostility and it also link to heart disease. You
must learn to control your anger because when you say something’s when you are
angry, you can never take it back, even when you have resolved the issue.
A
personality text was run in the 60s of medico and law students, and hostility
was measured, after twenty five years the student was stroke down, by the age
of fifty only four percent (4%) of the lawyer that was rank as easy going had
died two percent (2%) of the doctors that was ranked as easy going had died, lawyers
who was ranked high on hostility, has twenty percent (20%) mortality rate and that
of the doctors four percent. Anger boost your heart rate, raise your blood pressure,
and lead to the increase clocking of the heart rate. Angry is very dangerous to
your health. Been angry with another person it like drinking poison and
expecting the other person to be sick. A lot of people who live in Lagos, Nigeria,
statistics says; are more angry people than people who live in other cities. And
that is why the death rate in Lagos, is more that people who live in other
cities or villages.
Anger
can destroy creativity, the man that thought of airplane, most be a very calm
mind, you cannot be angry and eventful at the same time. No wonder the bible
says be anxious for nothing, because God knows that anxiousness will destroys your
ability to be creative. Isaiah says; I will give you the hidden treasure of darkness,
and the hidden riches of secret places, this is because its secret that makes
people, before Microsoft and Facebook was discovered, they were still in the secret,
and it only took a very calm, settled and angry free mind to discover those secret,
you most free yourself from anger, to discover the treasure within.
Anger
can destroy destiny. There was a man called Moses in the bible, he had a very
cordial relationship with God, to the point that God testified that he talks to
Moses like a man talks to his own friend, he was the only man that has seen
part of God physically and yet he lived, but anger ended up his destiny prematurely.
God instructed Moses, to speak to the rock to bring forth water, but because he
was angry he stroke the rode twice, because of that disobedient, he ended his destiny
prematurely. Be careful people might just want to push you out of your destiny
by anger, but you can choose not to respond. Didn’t it surprise you? It was the
attitude of the children of Israel that pushed Moses to stroke the rod but yet
it was not the people that ended up prematurely, but him that choose to respond
to that anger. You have to learn how to develop self control, and deliberately refuse
people, from taking you out of the track of your destiny.
Edited by George Uyigue Ihonwa